Archive for the ‘Education’ Category

REINVENTION
November 4, 2015

I seem to reinvent my career every so often. It’s not so much a conscious decision to do so but circumstances in my life seem to find me in different roles periodically.

I started my working life as hairdresser, which quickly evolved into my teaching beauty school because my family owned a small chain of cosmetology schools. Besides teaching, I learned a lot about running the schools and managing as well. I even helped to develop and launch an inter-school hair show, complete with product vendors, demonstrations from industry leaders, and a student styling contest aptly named Style ’88. When my family sold the schools, I too left the business. I started cutting hair when I was in high school and by the time I was in my late twenties, I became burnt out.

Unsure of what I wanted to do next, I accepted a job opportunity from a family friend who’s law firm was overseeing an entertainment company and sort of fell into my next chapter. I started as the receptionist at a small international film distribution company and quickly moved to another company, assisting the president of sales. I was then given the opportunity to handle sales in some of the smaller international territories, and my career in international film distribution took off. An actual career was born. I traveled to places like Cannes, London, Milan, and Budapest on an annual basis for film markets and festivals and enjoyed studying the film culture in the various countries where I handled sales. It was an interesting career for quite a long time.

When Cole was born I was running the international division of a distribution and production company. I had not intended to become a stay at home mom but the circumstances of his birth, and the reality of his life, kept me home. We spent the early years doing every and any early intervention available. Besides the barrage of therapies, we went to an inclusive co-op infant toddler program, moving then to the inclusive pre-school. We did acupuncture, massage, and aquatic therapy. We started hippo therapy (equestrian, not hippopotamus). I spent seven years home with him, learning to be his mom, his advocate, his therapist, his caregiver.

Eventually, however, he didn’t need me in the same way. He embraced every ounce of independence he could find. He started staying in the aftercare program at school, taking enrichment classes, playing with friends, and doing homework. He wanted to stay at school until they threw him out. So I started consulting here and there at first and eventually found myself in a full time job in the same international distribution arena but now doing contracts and financing instead of sales. I was able to have some flexibility in my schedule and no travel. Perfect for my family life.

Many years and two merges later I’m still fortunate to be working doing contacts, financing and more. I like to joke that I’m a lawyer by day (sans the law degree of course). Most people who do what I do are in fact lawyers but there are a handful of us in this business that are laymen with a decent grasp of the legalese. It’s challenging and familiar at the same time. I work with a group of people I really enjoy, and I have some flexibility. I’m in a good place. But that restless feeling that I wrote about a couple of days ago is seeping into all aspects of my brain. What’s next for me?

The whole high school search trauma (also from previous post) has me seriously contemplating climbing up on a soap box to challenge local, state, and federal education boards and governments to do better for kids with disabilities.  We’re doing them great disservice.

I’m inspired by Malala’s stance. Cole and I are reading her biography and it’s hard not to draw some similarities in her fight for education for girls and the need for people to advocate for children with disabilities to have been educational opportunities. Her battle had dangers and implications with higher consequences but the idea that everyone, every child, deserves the right tot quality education holds true no matter who, where or what the child.

If only activism could draw a salary…

I HATE MY SCHOOL
November 3, 2015

We’re in the process of looking at high school options for Cole. Sadly we soon will leave the inclusive nest of CHIME and throw him to the wolves known as LAUSD public high school.

It’s terrifying. The main realization I’ve come to is that children who are differently abled or different learners are not exactly welcome when it comes to high schools. The effort or cost to actually provide any sort of education to this population is not deemed worthwhile.

There are little opportunities to create a class schedule that would allow children who need support, physical or otherwise, in the classroom to learn in a typical high school classroom. In an overly crowded classroom with 45 desks, there’s not even physical room for a child in a wheelchair to maneuver or settle.

Our home school is not a viable option for Cole. Four different local gangs (so I probably don’t need to further explain why he’s never going to go there) rule the campus, so safety becomes a huge concern, and it’s not geared for kids with physical needs. I’ve toured a couple of schools so far and have several more to visit over the next month before we have to start making decisions and applying.

The one thing I’ve come to understand is that there will be very little opportunities for Cole to be included in, what I’ve come to fondly call “gen pop”. He’ll be relegated to special day classes where the classes are slightly smaller, the curriculum is modified to differently abled learners and where he can have someone with him to support both his physical needs and to help him access his classwork.

Part of me understands why high school has to be like this. They’re under-funded; overcrowded, and under-trained when it comes to inclusion. I also have no illusions about my son’s ability to keep up at class level without considerable support and modifications to his work. I do get the simple argument but to me it’s more complicated, and it’s more of a civil rights issue.

No child left behind means that no child should go without an adequate education. It doesn’t seem like our public high schools are even taking the first step towards providing a decent education for children with special needs. There’s a population of over twenty percent of our children who are left without real opportunity to have a true high school education and experience. It’s heartbreaking and it’s wrong.

Besides the placement of being in special day classes, there is little opportunity for any social interaction with gen pop. One school offered the possibility of him taking an elective each semester that would allow him to be in a gen pop classroom. Cole’s a very social being. He thrives on the interaction and friendship from typical children. He’s always made friends with typical kids and has never been a setting where he’s only among children with special needs. His criteria for friendship are all about shared interests and experiences. Even educationally, his typical peers motivate him. He wants to show them he can do things, what he’s learned, what he’s capable of. I fear that relegating him to special day classes will leave him lonely and unmotivated, and eventually depressed.

It sounds dire. It feels dire. I loathe this experience. I know that wherever he ends up, we will be right there in the trenches advocating for everything possible that can make his experience more inclusive and more tailored to his capabilities rather than disabilities. I know it will take a lot of work and diligence. I’m prepared to be the loudest squeaking wheel in the school if that’s what it takes to ensure he has a positive high school experience.

I just wish that there were more interest and support in educating all children from the schools. There are too many children who are being left behind.